Orgasms are for many the highlight of the sexual act and with good reason, because this is where we release so many pleasure hormones and get flooded in pleasure. Orgasms are good for both the nervous system and our overall health, but they also give us the opportunity to get to know ourselves and our partner better. Both men and women have the opportunity to experience not just one, but many different kinds of wonderful orgasms. Here is a guide to the different orgasms that women can experience and what characteristics are associated with them.
We start with the clitoris because it is the area of a woman’s body that is visible and can be easily touched. The clitoris is probably the place that most girls start out experiencing an orgasm from. A clitoral orgasm will usually feel like an outburst of increased pleasure coming from the clitoris and spreading through the rest of the body.
The clitoris is said to have 8,000 nerve endings, but since this is a study done on a cow, the probability that it is really reasonably small. But at least this little gem is the source of so much pleasure, and one can understand it as the first gateway to the woman’s orgasms.
The clitoris can look in many different ways. At the end of the clitoris sits the pearl, which is sometimes hidden behind a hood. In some women the clitoris is large, for others huge and for some quite small. Some clitoris hide under the clitoral cap, others hang out or are half hidden or have no clitoral cap at all.
You can easily stimulate your clitoris with your fingers in circles or back and forth, up and down movements or around the clitoris.
Start slowly and gently as the clitoris swells and you become more wet and aroused. From there, you can experiment with different rhythms and pressures. Feel for what feels good to you.
You can also use a clitoral vibrator to increase the stimulation, which can be really delicious. But be careful not to overstimulate this sensitive area, as it can create tension and lower the feeling of your dear clitoris.
The clitoris is not a DJ pult where you just can press and wriggle it and insteadly get pleasure. But it is a living organ that opens up with loving and gentle touch and a curious playful approach.
The vaginal orgasm
The vagina usually swells and becomes larger when you have spent proper time warming up your body and have stimulated and awakened your clitoris and vulva. Possibly having a few clitoral orgasms for this increases vaginal wetness, blood supply and sensitivity. It is definitely not uncommon for some women to need 20-40 minutes of foreplay to get ready for vaginal sex.
You can achieve a vaginal orgasm by inserting one or two fingers, a penis or a pleasure dildo into your vagina. You should like a 100% yes and penetration should feel uhhhh so good and NOT painful or numb.
Make an in and out movement and stay present with the sensations and what you are feeling at the moment. Find an area or point to push gently into, and if you feel like it, you can push deeper into and out and stimulate a smaller area with greater intensity and speed.
A vaginal orgasm is often described as deeper and more intense than a clitoral orgasm and can last longer and feel like something spreading out into the rest of the body. Read here my 6 secrets to experiencing a vaginal orgasm.
The G-spot orgasm
The G-spot orgasm is known to be the source of a wet and pleasurable orgasm, and from where you can experience a squirting orgasm. You usually get this orgasm by stimulating and pushing up against the area that sits 1-3 cm. inside the vagina up against the vaginal wall towards the pubic bone. You can make a C-shape with your fingers or use a curved dildo, e.g. The Magic Sprayer, Rose Quartz Amrita Crystal Dildo or Venus Wand.
The G-spot feels like a grooved sponge-like area, like the surface of a walnut or the palate of the mouth. It is also a swelling body and is said to be the woman’s prostate, so when you are really aroused, it will swell up with blood and fluid. By making a come-here motion, you can stimulate and awaken the area to become more and more sensitive. You can actually push in quite hard, and as you get more and more excited, you can make the movement faster.
When you stimulate the G-spot, the clitoris is actually stimulated at the same time because these are connected.
The trick is to be able to relax in your pelvic floor muscles, be fully present in your body, while stimulating the g-area. For it is in surrender and letting go of control of your bodily experience that you will be able to let go of your fluids, your wildness and your pleasure in a g-spot orgasm and ultimately in a squirting orgasm.
The anal orgasm
The anal orgasm is one of the absolute most wonderful orgasms ever. They are outward body experiences, even galactic. They are enjoyable for both women and men. An anal orgasm occurs when the anus is stimulated, and it is about going slowly forward and starting by stimulating the opening to the anus, preferably at the same time as other erogenous zones are stimulated e.g. clitoris or G-spot.
In fact, you need to be drifting wet before inserting anything into the anus. You will not get wet in the anus, but it is the fluids from the vagina that will run down and give lubrication to your anal play. It can also be good to use a lot of lube, but it should definitely not stand instead of natural lubrication.
The focus must be on gentle touch and building up pleasure and sensation more and more. Anal orgasms take time and are very intimate and are based on trust and love. In fact, you do not even have to get very far into the anus to experience an anal orgasm, but stimulating the opening can be completely orgasmic, and then when you feel the invitation, you can insert the penis, butt plug or anal-friendly dildo just a little into the anus, and it will send a stream of orgasmic energy up through the spine to the brain. It feels as if time is standing still and you are merging with your lover and with the cosmos and the sky. No shit! Or yes, just remember to go to the toilet beforehand.
The cervix sits at the end of the vaginal canal and is often ignored or completely forgotten, but it holds a huge pleasure potential. Women report that they feel reborn when they experience a cervical orgasm. When the cervix is stimulated and opens up, it will begin to pulsate more and more within you. Your body will flow over to love hormones and it will feel like a cosmic pleasure and an opening to higher love. It’s a life-changing orgasm.
To feel your cervix, you can sit in a deep squat or on the toilet and insert two fingers deep into you. At the end of your vagina you will feel an organ that feels like the tip of your nose. However, the cervix changes depending on where you are in your cycle. When you ovulate, she will be flatter and pulled back, and when you menstruate it will be further down the vaginal canal and feel more like a nose tip. The first step to a cervical orgasm is to become familiar with your cervix, so notice how yours feels at different times throughout your cycle.
The cervix can be said to be a queen and a gatekeeper who decides over who is allowed to enter the woman’s most sacred place, the womb. She does not like to be touched when you are not relaxed or excited. So the key to a cervical orgasm is to be wet, confident to be able to surrender and be properly relaxed in your body and pelvic floor. Sometimes we can have a lot of tension around the cervix, therefore it may be necessary to have to go through healing work first.
It may be necessary to use a pleasure rod to reach the cervix, e.g. The Cervix Wand, The Cervix Serpent Wand or the Rose Quartz Pleasure Wand. If you do this with your partner, ask him to walk slowly and gently forward and gently and lovingly thrust back and forth into the cervix or just let his penis gently rest up the cervix. It is truly love and security that open the cervix up to the orgasmic realms.
Mixed orgasms, the multi-orgasm and living life orgasmically!
There are so many other types of orgasms that you can experience, e.g. mixed orgasms where you touch different erogenous zones simultaneously, the A-orgasm (which sits between the cervix and G-spot) as well as energy orgasms, full-body orgasms, heart orgasms, where you use your breath and your imagination to draw energy from the earth, sky or up through your pussy up to areas of your body, e.g. the heart.
There are so many types of orgasms that have probably not been discovered or “found” yet. Sure, we can talk about having an orgasm, but you can also live your life orgasmically. Eating can be orgasmic, or smelling a flower or smearing oil on the body, watching a sunset, listening to music. The more you can be in your senses and feel life as if it were an orgasm, the more you will open your body up to become multi-orgasmic.
It is very rewarding to explore new ways to achieve orgasms. It may not feel very orgasmic at first, but know that the more you practice and stimulate an area, the more you will strengthen the nerve pathways and the connection between your head down to the body. Where the focus goes, the energy will flow.
Orgasms allow us to open up to new stages of being in the world as well as a deeper connection with ourselves and to our partner. But keep in mind that it is not the orgasm itself that will make you happy, but it is to feel sex and orgasms as a way to create connection, intimacy and love with your partner – to merge as a unit with his beloved will in itself give a super orgasm. If you do not have a partner yet, then you can explore yourself and have love with yourself, get to know yourself better and open yourself up to what you like and dislike. It will empower you to communicate more clearly what you like to your future partner.
Life also just gets a lot more fun and life-affirming when you are multi-orgasmic.
I’m having difficulty getting an orgasm.
But what if you’re having a hard time getting an orgasm, you might be thinking? In fact, approx. every fifth woman has difficulty getting an orgasm or never has an orgasm.
It can be due to many different things, but here is what I think is the primary cause:
1) Woman’s sexuality is not met properly, because it is completely different from men’s. The primary norm in the culture is men’s sexuality both of what we see in porn and the media. Men are often turned on faster than women and can progress faster in terms of stimulation of the genitals and would want penetration sex. Women, on the other hand, are turned on more slowly and are more often turned on via emotions, romance, love and the experience of being comfortable with their partner, and when she is accommodated with this, she will be able to experience riding on waves of orgasm after orgasm .
2) Women and girls experience a lot in relation to their womb & vagina, i.a. menstruation, childbirth, gynecological examinations and procedures, IUDs, endocrine disruptors and a labor market that does not take into account the female cycle. Culturally, religiously and socially, there is also a lot of taboo and ignorance about the woman’s sexuality, which emotionally and mentally can put a brake on the woman’s orgasms.
So it’s not because women and girls are less orgasmic than men and boys. On the contrary, women have a huge potential to experience many different orgasms, as this guide has already shown you.
So maybe your orgasmic journey first and foremost starts out as a sexual healing journey.